So, you wish to start thinking about making some changes in your life! …but how?
Whether it’s a New Year’s resolution or a decision at any time of the year, to making something change in one’s life is kind useless without a plan or a roadmap! It’s easy to get overwhelmed by all that needs to be done, and then to throw up our hands in the air in disgust, and tell our selves it’s no use!
Please don’t do that! We all have issues, and we all have things we’re working on, even the people who seem practically perfect on the outside!
Comparing our self to anyone else isn’t fair either, since we can never know what another person’s struggles are, and since we’re all different on the inside, our time-table will be different too!
Here’s more on the subject with a little excerpt from the book
“On Becoming a Lemonade Maker“:
Making Lemonade out of Life’s Lemons
Making lemonade out of life’s lemons and becoming a lemonade maker is partly a state of mind and partly learning some new tools.
It takes re-training of our minds, our perceptions, our emotions and our spirit to make this all happen. When we realize it is up to us, that no one else can do the work for us, then the work that it takes can seem like a lot and we can become overwhelmed.
It is do-able if we tackle it in smaller increments, and then the successes we achieve will help us to move forward. Never try to rush this progress, for even when it feels like nothing is happening, much to our surprise, the dormancy of winter changes, when a new Spring shows her face from behind a corner, and the lessons quietly learned in this time period push new juices through our veins.
When I say we need to do the work for ourselves, in no way do I mean that we are going to do this all by ourselves. There is a fine distinction between the two.
We all need help and support, which comes in various forms, both through reading and by talking to and learning from other people. Help can come from many varied and sometimes surprising sources, and I have found that the Universe can sometimes bring someone into my life to tell me something I need to hear in that moment, if I’m open to looking past some sources that might initially seem out of the square box.
However the end of each day, we all need to pick and choose the lessons that we feel are the most appropriate for ourselves, to then absorb and learn, to be able to internalize our healing. No one can do this work for us, while we sit back and allow it to happen; we need to participate very actively in our own process, which can be a slow, kind of ‘dripping in”, a percolation, and requiring repeated applications.
But, how do we get THERE from HERE, when the “Think Positive” adage seems to feel and sound hollow?
There are actually many facets to becoming a Lemonade Maker, each one allowing us to approach from a point we feel comfortable, and to gradually look and perhaps to incorporate them all in our own time. This means really that there isn’t a strict set of directions to follow, but rather, if we start with where we are at, with something that feels good, with something do-able, then we are making our start on this path.
How do we turn the lemons into lemonade? Follow me, please!
There are 4 main sections to this journey of work: Beginning Steps, Body, Mind and Spirit, with small headings, which are really more like mini chapters, in order to try to break down what seemed to me to be complicated lessons into easier to handle portions, which I hope may then be more useful to ponder and to absorb.
Sprinkled in are some quotes I added later, which seemed to resonate with certain sections, and seemed to amplify what I was trying to say. Some of the quotes I found made me realize I had forgotten to speak of other things I had learned, so they happily acted as a springboard to opening my memories of lessons learned. For many years, through many storms and trials, I have found solace and inspiration in various quotes, and so I am passing many on.
I find it helpful sometimes when I come across a quote that resonates with me on a certain day, to keep it in mind, as a source of comfort and to try to think deeply on the thought, so that I can do more than merely feel good for a moment, but to try to digest its message, so that my spirit and soul can incorporate it inwards. It has been very helpful to know that someone else has lived through and written about the very thing I might be going through.
Thanks to Pinterest, and Facebook, it is easy to come across a quote that really speaks to us in the moment, but because the Internet is so easy and immediate, it is also very forgettable too, unfortunately, so the lesson isn’t always carried forward into our life or our heart in the way we would have liked it to. If I come across the same quote at a later time, I’ll fall in love with it all over again, but also have a twinge of regret that I had forgotten it so easily, once I had moved on to some other posting.
At various times in my life, I have written out quotes or even scriptures (not included in this book) which have inspired me in the moment, and put them up on my fridge or the walls, so I could see them and remember them.
The very act of writing one out has a calming effect for me; as I’m writing, I feel each loop of each letter, allowing me to immerse myself in the thought, and to absorb the mini lesson I’m trying to learn. I highly recommend this to my readers: take time to make notes and write out the things that touch and inspire you, which teach you what you need in that moment. I feel that by writing things out, we take ownership of those thoughts, allowing us to learn, absorb, grow and dig deep down to find our truths.
Since I haven’t always had a perfect memory, I try to absorb the essence of the thought, and not worry about learning it word for word. I can always look up a quote on the Internet if I am in need of knowing the exact wording. I feel the lesson is far more important than the exact structure.
Finding a First Step
Finding something meaningful to remind our self that good things will happen is a very good starting point.
Taking that first step is important, and some of us who struggle with negative issues inside of ourselves or with depression, sometimes need to take that first step again and again, because our learning curve isn’t always smooth and upward! We need to keep the eye on the prize and keep putting one foot in front of the other. You can do this! It’s do-able.
“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear,
but the triumph over it.” – Nelson Mandela
“Everything you do right now ripples outward and affects everyone.
Your posture can shine your heart or transmit anxiety.
Your breath can radiate love or muddy the room in depression.
Your glance can awaken joy. Your words can inspire freedom.
Your every act can open hearts and minds.” – David Deida
“It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop.” – Confucius
There’s so many different ways you can take your first step, you can start from any point in the book really that speaks to you, and where you feel most comfortable now. I know, I know, that goes against so much of what we hear – but if you can have one or two relatively easy transformations under your belt, won’t it give you courage and confidence to continue on to the harder ones?
I divided the book into what I feel are major portions we need to deal with: Beginning Steps, Body, Mind and Spirit. While I put everything into what seemed like a logical order for me, you aren’t me, and let’s face it, life isn’t logical!
Feel free to start anywhere that feels right to you, and proceed from there. Start small, or start big… it’s all up to you and what you feel ready to do!
I’m not sure that it matters where we start, as long as we do!
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