I never set out to live without money. It just kind of happened.
I enjoyed having money even if it wasn’t a lot. At least I had spending money and could go out to a movie or grab a bite to eat. I could buy things for myself and my family.
Without money I felt my wings were clipped and I had lost all my independence. It was a hard blow to someone who was used to earning her money and paying her way.
How did I end up having zero income… for a YEAR?
About a year and a half ago I lost my job, so for a few months I had unemployment insurance. For a couple of years my daughter and I had been talking about moving away from the small town we live in and move everyone to a larger and more urban area about an hour and a half from us. With both of us losing our jobs within a short time of each other, we thought that would be the ideal time to make our move.
She found a job in the new town, and since she left the house at the crack of dawn and came home at 8 or 8:30 pm, the job of getting the kids off to school, dinners, homework, etc., fell onto my shoulders.
Our plan was for her to purchase a house there, and once we all got moved in I’d be able to find a job.
That was the plan… and as plans go, it was solid… but as it happens in life, we got thrown a curve ball, well we had a few roadblocks. One was so drastic that we shelved our plans to move away, and instead to focus on buying a house locally.
So, our initial time-frame of a few weeks ended up dragging out into a year! Can you imagine having your life in a holding pattern for that long, unable to do anything until the cogs of the Universe move forward?
How did this affect me?
Initially it really irked me! I was irritated and irritable! I felt trapped and resented it! I knew it wasn’t my daughter’s fault, but was just a series of difficult events which prevented us from moving forward.
Once my unemployment money and my savings ran out, my daughter had to give me money to pay my bills. I’ve always been the breadwinner… as a single mom, in my second marriage… it was supremely difficult to ask my daughter to step in and help me out. It felt humiliating… demeaning… but she has been absolutely wonderful about it. She said I’m a huge help with the kids, and if she had to leave the kids with a babysitter she’d have to pay much more.
It was a struggle to turn my thoughts from impatience to patience; irritability to peace and resentment into gratitude.
I had to mindfully practice changing my thoughts! I had to accept the situation and stop trying to push things to go faster. I needed to focus on all the good things in my life instead of magnifying the negative.
What have I taken away from this experience?
A new gratitude for having any money… My need to buy has been curtailed.
I thought I had a good understanding of wants and needs but when one gets put into a situation where they have no money and need to ask others, (in my case it was my daughter) one sees things very differently.
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“Always believe that something wonderful is about to happen.” – Unknown. One of the quotes which is included in the book “On Becoming a Lemonade Maker” by Tamara Kulish. A beautiful rainbow made an appearance in the high desert as we were driving up to Taos, New Mexico.
“A mind is like a parachute. It works best when it is open.” – Frank Zappa. One of the quotes which is included in the book “On Becoming a Lemonade Maker” by Tamara Kulish. A Night-time Hot Ait Balloon Glow is truly a magical experience in Tucson, Arizona!
“Don’t let your happiness depend on something you may lose.” – C.S. Lewis. One of the quotes which is included in the book “On Becoming a Lemonade Maker” by Tamara Kulish. This quote by C.S. Lewis speaks to the transitory things in our lives we can put too much importance on, and which ultimately can give us a false sense of security and happiness. I love the way the pensive mood of this bird in nature contrasts with the quote. On one hand nature is one of the constants which we can let our soul loose in, and on the other hand, the fleeting position of a bird reinforces the thought of temporariness of riches, fame, social position and other things we seek our identity from! This lone bird braved the chilly coastal winds blowing in Northern California on an overcast day.
“No one is in charge of your happiness except you.” – Unknown. One of the quotes which is included in the book “On Becoming a Lemonade Maker” by Tamara Kulish. These gorgeous flowers growing beside the bus stop I waited at in Tucson, Arizona, beckoned to me. I crouched down near the sidewalk to take its portrait, and people looked at me like I was a strange Paparazzi! Sometimes you just have to be willing to look a little strange to capture a great shot!
“Nothing is permanent in this world, not even our troubles.” – Charlie Chaplin. One of the quotes which is included in the book “On Becoming a Lemonade Maker” by Tamara Kulish. If you look closely at this cracked blue flower pot I found in Santa Fe, New Mexico, you’ll see the old Adobe buildings reflected in the side!
The Art of Being Happy lies in the power of extracting happiness from common things.” – Henry Ward Beecher. One of the quotes which is included in the book “On Becoming a Lemonade Maker” by Tamara Kulish.
“The only Zen you find at the tops of mountains is the Zen you bring there.” – Robert M. Pirsig. One of the quotes which is included in the book “On Becoming a Lemonade Maker” by Tamara Kulish. A gorgeous sunset captured as we were crossing the mountains going into California. It was so bright it looked like a huge fire was raging just beyond view, and this intense brightness didn’t last for very long before it was completely dark.
“The lure of the distant and the difficult is deceptive. The great opportunity is where you are. Do not despise your own place and hour. Every place is under the stars, every place is the center of the world.” – John Burroughs. One of the quotes which is included in the book “On Becoming a Lemonade Maker” by Tamara Kulish. The sun was at its magic hour out on the desert flats outside of Wilcox, Arizona. There are free range cattle out in the distant fields casting a wary eye, but I was far more interested in the amazing panoramic scenery than in disturbing them!
“There seems to be no plan because it is all plan; there seems no center because it is all center.” – C.S. Lewis. One of the quotes which is included in the book “On Becoming a Lemonade Maker” by Tamara Kulish.
“Your life is your message to the world. Make sure it’s inspiring. – Unknown. One of the quotes which is included in the book “On Becoming a Lemonade Maker” by Tamara Kulish.
“Nothing ever exists entirely alone; everything is in relation to everything else.” – Buddha. One of the quotes which is included in the book “On Becoming a Lemonade Maker” by Tamara Kulish. Mankind used to think of so many things as being so separate from everything else, and the more we learn, the more we see that these age-old words are more true than we ever realized.
Complete list from the 2016 A to Z Challenge:
A is for Art for Animals by Artfully Framed
B – Blue Ocean Thinking? What’s that?
C – Compass… Or more specifically, a Moral Compass!
D – Divide and Conquer… The Start of Racism
E – Endorsements… What DO we stand for?
F – Focus on our THOUGHTS and bridge the GAP between Religion and Non-Religion.
G – Gym memberships… No time? No money? No problem!
H – Healing + Art = Awesomeness!
I – Inspiration!
J – Joint Pain, Arthritis and RA… My Personal Tips!
K – Kindness!
L – Laughter, It’s About a Sense of Humor!
M- More Than Milk and Honey for Anxiety!
N – Note Writing and Making To-Do Lists… Here’s a NEW trick!
O – Overbooking Ourselves, and Kicking ourselves After!
P – The Power of Positive Words!
Q – Questioning our Life’s Missions!
R – Re-Blogging… Here’s a few of my favorites!
S – Sleep your way to success … A different take!
T – This Productivity Trick Will Make Your Snooze Button a Thing of the Past!
U – Understanding Strange Dreams!
V – Vocational Training for Free!
W – What CAN happen when someone doesn’t like us for no apparent reason!
X – XXX’ed Out! Mistakes and blame.
Y – You’re wrong about that!
Z – Zero Dollars!