My post below was written in response to Alexis’ question she was pondering at 3 am. While most of us won’t ever have to experience what she went through, we’re still faced with our own crossroads in life, and our choices can have deep impacts on many people around us.
I’ve put forth a shift in an oft asked question we tend to ask during these times, and that new question can be a game changer for many people, so I’m sharing it here:
“I read recently that slightly changing an often asked question changes the whole perspective.
Ask: what choice do I need to make for MY greater good?
See how this is different from the old way of asking: “…for THE greater good”?
Too often we’re taught to look at the greater good for ALL, which often meant sacrificing our own needs, desires and dreams so we ended up suffering even more, sometimes for a whole lifetime.
By changing one little word, shifting the focus of the question onto ourselves, “What choice do I need to make for MY greater good” we look at the big picture in a self empowering way.
“Greater good” implies there’s choices which are less than great, but by taking responsibility for our own paths we ultimately do what is best for all around us even if it doesn’t feel that way at first.
When we hide and sublimate ourselves to do something we perceive to be for the greater good of everyone else, we’ve made a choice not to be our authentic selves.
This choice comes at a far greater price, and the long term suffering is deeper.
When other people find out years later we sacrificed our personal happiness/dreams/goals for them, they’re not necessarily happy we did so. Instead many will feel guilty that they were the cause of the internal hardships we endured, in order to keep from rocking the boat.
So, the best and hardest question then is: “what choice do I need to make for MY greater good?”
Even if the choice you choose to make is overwhelming or daunting, it’s best to break it down into simpler and more manageable steps.
You have become a wonderful teacher and inspiration for many, yet in spite of all the knowledge you have gained, you find yourself still a student. That’s good! Why? It means you’re still open! Open to learning, open to change and open to your personal successes!
Peace to you on your path!
PS, I’m reblogging this as I feel it will be helpful to more people!”
Peace and strength to us all as we continue to make choices for each of our greater good!